Went to the library today in hopes of having a more productive day but...NOT REALLY.Sigh whatever I kinda give up already so yeah. Was with XiaoYun and Kessie and a bunch of other AJcians. Had Centre-parting-day with dearest xiaoyun! But we didn't take any pictures ): OHWELL. Gonna meet up with le primary school friends tomorrow so excited! Haven't seen them in the longest time and even though most of them are really quite
atas I think I can still hang out with them comfortably(
I hope)
So moving on to my bigger topic for today: Do girlfriends change guys for the better or worse?(Or something along this line)(Of course from a sister's point of view)
Ultimately, it depends on the guy and the girlfriend of course. And I actually think the guy plays a pretty big part in how he changes in the course of having a girlfriend. I say this because I have 2 brothers, both with characters
worlds apart and their having girlfriends have affected them differently. Of course the girl plays an importantly role too cos I've seen extreme changes in my 2nd brother with different girlfriends (only 2,one past and present.) OKAY WHAT AM I TALKING ABOUT.THEY BOTH MATTER.
So my ultimate purpose is to rant about how my 2nd brother has changed...into someone I don't know anymore. I mean like, we're total strangers now and when I think about it...It's just really sad y'know. It just isn't the same anymore.
He's currently in a somewhat long-distance relationship with this girl who's studying in Malacca, while he's here in JB, he goes down to visit her occasionally and when she comes back to JB during term breaks or something. But other than that, their entire relationship takes place over the phone. And I know the need to talk more to your partner especially if you guys are far apart. BUT DUDE, she's like some crazy rich kid who calls my brother what seems like
almost every minute of everyday! (Okay obviously that's an exaggeration). But I'd feel suffocated and restricted if I were my brother. And maybe he DOES feel that way but yeah he loves her and all.
My brothers are loyal men :') And the most ridiculous thing is she is extremely unreasonable. Like my brother has to report to her and stuff :
Where he is, what he ate, who he's with, what he did . How redonkulous is that. And she controls him, like she doesn't let him go out with his friends. Expects him to be at her beck and call,
LIKE CAN YOU NOT BE SO SELF-CENTRED .
What's more annoying is she doesn't give him time for his family. And she has kind of pulled him away from us, so much that he seems rather alienated from us now, EXTREMELY distant I might add. I feel, as a girlfriend, you should encourage your bf to be on good terms with your family, and make sure that they are welcoming of you. BUT NO. She distances him from us. She doesn't even acknowledge me, it's as if I don't exist and I don't matter. But trust me, a sister's opinion matters. Even though I may not be on good terms with my brother now, my opinion will ultimately matter. And I just...HATE HER.
I used to be close to my second brother (in a sense), after our long streak of quarrels and cold wars. ( I think it's normal, because he feels I'm doted on while he suffers
Middle Child Syndrome). He kept secrets well. For example, he found out I had a boyfriend, and I was super duper scared he would spill to my mum, but he didn't. All he did was use it against me when he wanted me to do stuff(brotherly love eh),and tease me about it. We could talk about things that I would never talk to my eldest brother or mother about. I always hung out in his room and even slept there. When he was with his ex, that was when we started to mend our relationship after our quarrelsome years. I'm not being stereotypical here and I don't mean to generalize, but maybe it was because his ex was a good, god-loving girl with proper values and character. She was really nice to me too, always talking to me and buying me stuff(no I don't like her just cause she buys me stuff). As for his present girlfriend, I'm sure I don't have to reiterate my point to drive it home.
Further more, sometimes I think I'm actually scared of my brother. When he isn't in his own world, cooped up in his room playing his games, I see a lot of negativity in him, and a lot of anger. He gets angry easily. He doesn't do things for the family anymore. Doesn't even contribute to my mum's or dad's birthday celebrations, maximum $50-$100 for a 24 year-old man, and only if asked. He used to be generous. He would spend $200 on my mum's birthday and even initiate the celebration. I'm not saying he should spend money on the family, but I'm trying to say that he should care. But he doesn't anymore. We are just nothing to him anymore.
Nothing. What has this girl done to my brother to cause him to change so drastically for the worse. Why is she this way. I wish I could do something to stop this, and wake my brother up.
It just isn't the same anymore. Show him what he's become in hopes of the old Gabriel returning. But I'll probably never dare to speak to him like how I used to before again.
Hopefully one day I can muster the courage to have a talk with him cause that's the least his younger sister by 7 years can do.
This is one of those times
Okay,sorry guys for the really lengthy rant. Hope you guys have a beautiful day(:
Tiffany<3